Work With Me

my coaching philosophy

All humans have deep wisdom, creativity and resourcefulness. I believe that you are the expert on you, even when you don’t feel like it. My job is to listen deeply, ask powerful questions and co-create a space with you where you can gain greater alignment with yourself and your inner wisdom. Let me help point you back toward yourself.

 

areas of focus:

  • NON-TRADITIONAL RELATIONSHIPS: I specialize in working with individuals who are polyamorous, ethically non-monogamous (ENM),
    consensually non-monogamous (CNM), relational anarchists, monogamish, etc. If you’re wanting to intentionally choose
    and live into the relationship structure that works for you, you’re in the right place.

    • common topics clients bring:

      • navigating: jealousy, communication pain points, structural changes within an existing partnership (opening up the relationship, moving towards non-hierarchy, for example), differing attachment styles

      • cultivating: greater clarity on the relationship structure that works best for them, compersion, healthy boundaries and communication, more fulfilling intimacy with partner(s) and self, greater self-trust, deeper self-love

  • EMBODIMENT: The mind/body connection is extremely valuable and often interrupted. I work to help clear any roadblocks through body awareness, breathing techniques, visualization, etc. so that your mind and heart can speak freely with one another.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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 the clients I work with:

  • find themselves somewhere within the umbrella of poly! any and all modes are welcome here. whether you have years of poly experience, are beginning your journey, or simply just curious to learn if poly is for you, there is support here!

  • are ready to dive deep and meet themselves in new ways. self-knowledge, self-learning, self-actualization are intimate journeys and take courage (the fact that you’re here reading this means you are indeed courageous)!

  • committed to personal responsibility and take ownership for their lives completely.

  • committed to their own growth through open and honest communication, honoring exactly where they are in every moment.

  • committed to practicing relationship in ethical ways.

 

4 month engagement

This work takes time! I often see shifts happen quickly, and I also know that the most momentum and clarity needs room to marinate. 4 months together gives us time & space to create shifts and changes at both thought and behavioral levels so that at the end of 4 months you have tools and a forward moving strategy to continually create your desired life.

 
 

session structure

  • First Session: Our first session is 60 minutes in duration. This consists of designing our alliance together. Here, we figure out what we each need from the other in order for the coaching to be the most successful. We chat about goals, vision, values and what success looks like! Some questions you might hear me ask in this session are:

    • who do you need me to be as your coach?

    • what can I count on you for?

    • what does success look like in 4 months?

    • how do you want this journey to feel?

  • Sessions 2-11: These are 30 minutes in duration and occur three times per month. In these, we dive into topics that you as the client have brought to the session. These can be relevant to your initial goals you’ve set or something seemingly irrelevant that is present with you that day. Any topic is welcome. This is a safe, non-judgmental space.

  • Final Session: Our last session is 45-60 minutes in duration. This session consists of lots of celebration! We will spend lots of time reflecting on all you’ve accomplished and who you have become. Some questions you might hear me ask in this session are:

    • what would you like to celebrate about our time together?

    • who are you now?

    • what’s next?

    • with all that you’ve accomplished, what’s possible now?

    Want to hear more? Book a free discovery session!

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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